I've been instructed to write weekly blogs on submission...already I'm a few hours late, but such is life sometimes...
I did, however, think about it a lot last week.
I have often thought Dominance and submission were yin and yang - and in many ways, they are. But, while they work in concert with one another once the relationship is moving along, in the beginning, the Leadership has to come first.
A dominant is often a natural leader, in the workplace, in hobbies, with friends, etc. Sometimes a dominant isnt an aggressive leader, not quite so overt. But whether overt or subtle, it is still there all the time.
A submissive cannot submit to just anyone or anything. (that wouldnt be submission, that would be a lack of will) submission is a response. It is elicited. It is drawn out of a person. In the best of situations, it is cultivated. It is a conscious act of submitting one's will to another's.
In a christian marriage, the woman is called to submit to her husband. AND the husband should be submitting to God. The chain of command should stay in order...or otherwise you just have a tangled mess (see the dog sled post). If a christian man, head of his household, leader of his family, king of his castle, is not in line with the will of God before trying to get his wife (or kids) to follow him, he tears her (and them) up. She is literally torn, trying to follow two masters.
On my way to write this, I read someone else's blog, simply because the title caught my eye "the man is the head, but the woman is the neck" Sara wrote....
"If a man wants a Dd marriage to exercise control for his own personal agenda, to play out his cave-man fantasies, is immature enough to need to put himself first, or has emotional problems, he should not be put in charge of the relationship, let alone you. If he is narcissistic, selfish, unable to put you first, unable to accept you and love you for who you are, he is not going to be a good leader."
I thought that was so well written, there was no need for me to try to come up with my own version.
Submission requires leadership - and ledership isnt just issuing orders, it is sacrificially stepping up to lead.
